I was inspired a few weeks ago to write this how to list. Several SOL writers wrote poems and lists that were focused on the “how to” element. I wish I could give credit but I can’t remember the blogger so if anyone reads this and remembers, please comment!
Here is my “how to” list below.
How to move…
1. Purge. Get rid of all the things you haven’t used in the last year or so. Make multiple trips to the Goodwill and when you think you’re finished, purge more.
2. Initiate. You’ll be the “new person” so you’ll have to initiate conversation. Smile at people and talk. It may be awkward but you may end up making a new friend. (Or at least you’ll get a good idea of the people you don’t want to befriend.)
3. Lower expectations. Things will happen. The unexpected events will occur. Your belongings may get broken in transit, that relationship you thought was rock solid may fizzle, your kids may hate their new schools. Just breathe and remember that you can’t be disappointed if you aren’t expecting perfection.
4. Breathe. You’ll maybe even want to practice this one. It’s pretty simple but it may result in peace and quiet rather than snapping back at a family member for leaving their dishes in the sink rather than the dishwasher. (THE mortal sin in my home.)
5. GPS. You have to have it. You’ll get lost even when you do have it. Just enjoy the ride, right?🙄 (Clearly told to you by someone who has never lived anywhere other than the town they were born.)
6. Explore. Be adventurous and just take in all the new things around you. It’s like a vacation but you get to stay there.
7. Embrace it. Things will change and so will you. Life will look different-from the grocery nature you shop at to the house you live in and the people you invite to sit beside you. It’s ok. Different is not bad.
8. Call your people. Remember to call your people-family and friends. Don’t forget those past friendships as you forge ahead. Have a network to support you when you need it because you will.
9. Laugh. Don’t take yourself too seriously. If you do, you’ll cry.
10. Grow. Stop expecting to sprout if you’re digging in old dirt and fertilizing with expectations of the past. Bloom where you’re planted.